(Grab a copy of Karol K. Truman's book "Feelings Buried Alive Never Die". You can purchase one at my website: www.TheInsideFirst.com/resources or check one out from the library or borrow one from a friend. We are reading a chapter every couple of weeks, then sharing what we got out of the reading! You can also pick another book you'd like. The focus is to read and expand your mind.)

Chapter 8: Let's Get Started

Narrowing down all of the possible feelings and emotions to two, I thought, was great. It helps to be simplistic about things, especially when trying to explain a concept that is new to most people.

LOVE: Positive feelings and emotions-peaceful state
HATE: Negative feelings and emotions-state of discomfort and uneasiness

The author reminded us of the feelings we internalized at birth. She said 97% of us internalized one of the seven fear feelings (anger, hate, guilt, resentment, rejection/abandonment, need for approval, and overwhelmed burden). This colors all our perception of life and is the ruling feeling through which we view life and compels us to the behavior we exhibit each day! Wow!

She continues with prompting us to use The Script to address negative feelings and to be conscious of the feelings we are having. She states "just keep digging" and process daily negative feelings and thoughts.

I've often heard people say the reason we dislike things in others is because we can see it in ourself. Karol says "We only see in others that which we see (subconsciously) in our Self. Until we own this truth, we will continue to carry the burden of our own darkness".

Now, I don't like to admit that I'm like those things I dislike in others. Maybe sometimes I can't really see it there inside me, or I don't want to believe it. But why else would it bother me if someone say chews with their mouth open? That's a very simple example, but you can fill in anything in there.

I think the main lesson to this chapter is to make it a normal routine to recognize negative and positive feelings and emotions and use the script to work through some of those negatives. After all, our goal is to improve our lives and be happier, right?

COMICAL HAPPENINGS

Yeah, you've got it all figured out.
You're going somewhere to impress someone.

You've got the right clothing.
The hair is looking great.
You're right on time.
You're feeling like a million bucks.
Nothing can stop you now!

You dazzle them with your intellect.
Make them smile with your great sense of humor.
You leave feeling like you just conquered the world!

After getting home you look in the bathroom mirror.
Maybe say an awesome thing or two to yourself, then smile.
(That same smile you had while you conquered the world.)
And the green broccoli you had with lunch smiles back at you.

JUST SOME THOUGHTS I WANTED TO SHARE . . .

This morning I had family on my mind.
As a child growing up in an abusive/dysfunctional family, I hoped all my siblings would grow up and be close to each other.
I thought the lessons we learned would teach us how important those relationships are to us being whole.

As time passed my hopes and thoughts did not come true.
I spent many years trying to mend relationships and keep us strong together.
One day I realized I could only be responsible for me.
I gave up being the family "peace keeper" or "diplomat".
Frankly, it was more stress than I could bear.

I guess the lesson in all of this is . . .
Never give up hope that one day relationships will mend.
Be open to others offering apologies or a chance to heal.
Always be true to yourself and your shortcomings.
Never hold grudges. Learn from the past, then let it go.

PARTING THOUGHTS

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